The world of introverts

Why are you so silent and in your head again, why can't you ever be happy? How can you listen to that depressing music?

What do you mean? I AM happy. And this music is not depressing. At least not for me.

I though there was something wrong with me before Susan Cain actually said it alould: Introverts are often blaimed to be antisocial and weaker especilly at work because they are not continuously chatting and talking enthusiastically with everyone. But this is their strenght. Some people just need space and silence in order to be creative.

Most importantly, introverts enjoy listening nostalgic music, reading emotional books and thinking about nostalgic moments. This IS happiness for them. We do not have to shout it to the world. Outsiders please understand.

Give it away

Can money buy Happiness? Yes!

Start giving your money away.

Co-active coaching

Yes, because we are all AMAZING.

Last weekend I finally made one of my dreams to come true. I am still so excited about it I feel like smiling to strangers and walking feels like dancing!

I participated in a Fundamentals course in Co-active coaching by CTI - The Coaches Training Institute in London. I thought I already knew a lot about coaching after reading so many books on life coaching, maditation, mindfullness etc. but it turned out there is so much more! Coaching is about practising it, not about reading and making notes.

Coaching includes a special set of skills such as listening in three different levels and putting all the attention to the coachee, who is the center of attention. Coaching is not about the coach itself, giving answers or opinions at all, but helping the coachee to find the answers in them selves and take the next steps to make their wildest dreams come true! Believe it or not, but what I have seen last weekend this is true and amazing!

Most importantly, coaching is not concentrating on problems. I thought going deeper into problems was necessary to solve them, but concentrating too much on the problem actually keeps us in low and negative energies, which on the other hand prevents us to see the solution. Instead, coaching aims to lift people up and make them see what is really important to them by focusing on what they love, makes them feel wonderful, smile and shine. The secret is to stay in the higher energies where we have the most creative and positive view on our lives. We all are naturally creative, resourceful and amazing. Isn't that great!

There is so much more to come!

Quality moments

Finland, what a great country, thank you so much!

It must be true that you only know what you got once you lose it. Before I took being at home for granted, now it feels like I am on a luxury holiday.

Everything has gone just perfectly since I came. Sunshine, diamond snow, fresh coldness. We broke the coldness record again today, minus 39 degrees or so. It is pretty cold and ok I am not surprised I saw some complaints in peoples fb statuses. But this is so great. In continental Europe winter is humid, wet, muddy and grey. This is the real winter!

Plus I have been eating all those Finnish delicious foods I really missed: salmon in the oven, Carelian pies, Christmas cookies (yes I know Christmas is in 10 months), rasberries, blue berries, rye bread...and sauna accompagned with a cool apple cider.

Now listening the sound of the fire place and looking out of the window. Everything is so calm, it seems like the time has stopped. Oh yes, more these kind of moments. This is food for the soul. 

Happiness is the way

Why this blog? I have never been a writer or exactly enjoyed writing before. But sometimes small miracles happen: some ideas are simply worth of spreading!

Life is full of surprises. Unfortunately sometimes unexpected changes or accidents might change our plans totally, not in the way we hoped. Our heart might break or we might lose our health, or a person we love. Suddenly the whole world looks black and grey. But these moments can actually bring us something. 

The way we see life might change. 

There are some people who seem to be always on a good mood and radiate their energy to all the people around them. Wish I was one of them! For other people, it is not that simple. Even if everything was great in our lives, we sometimes become blind to those things. People tend to be critical towards themselves and others and see only the negative things around them: If I had that job I would be happy or if only my boyfriend would change, I would be happier. This is the sure way to be unhappy for the rest of your life. We can only change our own thinking, we cannot change other people. The happiness is between our ears and depends only on ourselves.

How often do you remember to be grateful of your health, family, friends and simple things like your job, that cup of coffee, warm shower and the fact that you are not alone? Sometimes a reason to be grateful might simply be that a bad day is over or you finally left something unpleasant behind you. But the main message is to be aware of those great things you have in your life, everyday.

So, to come to an end, last Christmas I started to write down at least five things everyday that I am grateful for. This method is recommended by many spiritual authors and coaches in order to be more aware of the positive things in our lives. First it was a little difficult, but after some weeks I noticed that something had changed. I was obliged to turn my attention more and more to positive things, and it worked out. I was so excited about this change that I decided not to keep it only for myself but to share it with you. The only way to be happy is to live in the moment and appreciate the things in my life NOW.

  

There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way. – Wayne Dyer

Five reasons to be happy today: